Still Standing: A Personal Business Review of My Rock bottom to Success Rebuild

1. Executive Summary: Three Months Since the Breakup

On July 11th, she told me it was over.

Tomorrow marks three months since that moment – a sentence that split my year, my plans, my identity in two.

The emotional aftermath wasn’t just heartbreak – it was total collapse.

But this isn’t a blog about loss.

This is a report about what happened next – and what I did with it.

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2. Timeline Breakdown: From Rock Bottom to Recovery

Here’s what the last 90 days really looked like:

July

• Rock bottom hit.

• Started therapy every single day – systemized, tracked, and built from zero.

• No drinking. No rebound. No distractions. Just the raw pain and the work.

August

• Built my first fully structured daily routine.

• Created new training systems: gym, home, cardio, breathwork, and mindset tools.

• Fought every day to not spiral.

• Burned and tracked every step anyway.

September

• Hiking trip. Nature. Silence. Reflection.

• Feedback from my best friend: “You look stronger than I’ve ever seen you.”

• Started rebuilding my physical, emotional, and financial life – piece by piece.

October (So Far)

• Hit 6× gym sessions per week.

• Rebuilt my wardrobe.

• Defined my financial structure.

• Planned my Ironman training phase.

• No distractions. Just me, the work, and the truth.

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3. Actions Taken (Metrics That Matter)

Therapy: Daily sessions since July 11

Fitness: 6× gym/week + structured Ironman plan

Mindset work with daily integration

No Contact: no chasing, no begging

Finances: Full restructure

Wardrobe: Transition planned, intentional

Substances: No alcohol, no numbing, no openness for outside intrest

Learning: daily for intentional growth and about the self+others, Spanish, with book reflections in addition.

I didn’t run. I rebuilt.

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4. Key Reflections: What I’ve Learned So Far

• Healing isn’t linear, and growth isn’t sexy. Some days it’s just keeping your promises to yourself.

• You can’t bypass pain. You can only walk through it – with discipline as your compass.

• It’s possible to want love and still choose yourself first.

• No one ever can be at 100%. She only ever saw the 40% version of me…

• I am no longer begging life for softness. I am building strength.

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5. Self-Evaluation: Where Am I Now?

If I had to rate myself today?

I’d say I’m at 55 – 60% max…

Not fully healed and far from excellence.

But aligned, honest, and climbing.

And that’s more than I could say even 12 weeks ago.

This is the first time in my life I’m fighting for constant progress.

I’m not posting “healing” memes while spiraling.

I’m actually doing the work.

And that’s a life I can stand behind – whether or not She ever comes back.

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6. What Comes Next (Q4 Strategy)

• Keep building. No matter who’s watching.

• Show up in Malaga. Not as a test – but as a statement.

• Stay aligned. No shortcuts. No distractions.

• Trust the process. This rebuild was never about Her – it was about me.

• Be open to love. But never again at the cost of my self-respect.

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7. Closing Words (To You, If You’re Reading This in Pain)

If you’re at your very own Rock bottom – this is what I’ll say:

It won’t get easier before it gets harder.

But if you keep going – if you show up day after day after day – you will rebuild.

Not into who you were.

But into someone you haven’t met yet.

Direction matters more than perfection.

And if you keep choosing truth over fantasy, effort over excuses, you’ll get somewhere so solid that no one – not even the person who left can shake it again.

So keep going, trust the process and work your way up from Rock bottom to Success 🦾