AITAH for not canceling my vacation and reporting a coworker for harassment?

EDIT 2: A lot of questions about my vacation time.lol.

During Covid, my company allowed us all to roll over all PTO from 2020-2022 because of the no travel stuff happening. In 2023 they moved the bar from 150 hours (4ish weeks) up to 250 (6ish weeks) roll over because a lot of people complained about losing a lot of time when they didn't travel.

You were not required to bank your time. Some people took their and traveled. We took the pandemic seriously and did not travel at all in 2020 to mid 2021 and then we stayed home most of the first half of 2022 as well and started traveling again in Oct of 2022. So I banked my 250 and because I'm still accuring, I have a lot of hours built up. We do snow activities that are "free"in the winter so we barely travel and we don't start traveling until May of each year and by that time, I've accured more time.

Hope this helps! Lol.

POST: At my job you can only roll over 250 vacation hours. So,come December 31st if you have over 250 hours, you lose them. They don't pay it out.

Every year, my husband and I take several longish (10-11 days) scheduled vacations. Visiting a relative in Florida, Family Reunion wherever it's being hosted, anniversary trip each Fall, etc.

I always end up having over 250 hours even though we take those trips. I usually take between the 15th-18th of Dec through the 5th or 6th of Jan off. I have been doing this for nine years (and its approved). We hired "Haley" in October. She has made it clear that her son is her life. That's well and fine. I don't care one way or another.

Haley came to my desk on Monday and asked me if I would reconsider my time off in December. When I asked why she said that she had requested some time off to travel with her son for the holidays to see her family but it was denied because I'm off. I just said "No, sorry." and turned back around.

That afternoon, Haley sent me an email with an itemized timeline of all the time off I had taken this year (our team has a shared calendar so we can know when the other are out of office) and asked to please reconsider and she CCd our boss. I will be honest this severely pissed me off. I don't butt into anyone else's business ever. I don't care if I see your ass parked on the 50 yard line at the Eagles game the same day you call in sick. (Go birds!). As long as I'm not having to do your work, I do not care. I emailed back immediately saying that I don't appreciate her combing through my vacation time and that my answer was still no and I did not want to discuss the matter further.

Yesterday morning, I was called into a meeting my boss "Lisa" and Haley. Lisa jumped right in saying that she saw Haleys email and my response and Haley wanted to meet. I told Haley and Lisa both, I will not be canceling my vacation. Haley starts raising her voice about how my child free traveling should take a back seat to working class mother's and their kids. She claimed that I hate kids from my remarks in the workplace and she felt I was retaliating for the "cause".

Both Lisa and I were shocked at the accusation. I am child free by choice. My husband and I have lots of nieces and nephews as well as God children and we are happy. We do not hate kids! Lisa knows this as well. We have worked together in total for about 15 years. I told Haley that she's making a false accusation and this was now an HR matter. I got up and left the meeting even though Lisa asked me to stay. About a half hour later, I got another email from Haley but she was informing me she was asking Lisa to make the call to revoke my PTO and be fair to others on our team. Then, I overheard her telling a team member I'm not letting her take time off because I hate kids and I'm part of the hateful child free community. That was the last straw for me.

I attached both of her emails and wrote an email to HR about her harassing and slandering me. I gave the name of the coworker she was talking to and the conversation context as well. I hit send and forwarded it to my boss afterwards so she knew was what going on.

About an hour ago, I found out that Haley has a meeting with HR on Friday and she will more than likely be fired.

The coworker she complained to told me that he felt I overreacted and that she was just venting about finding child care for the holidays because of work and I should have sat down to talk about it more. A friend who is aslo a colleague (who told me about the meeting) said she thought I let my anger get the best of me and now Haley may lose her job when she's just a stressed out and overly tired mother having a bad day.

I will admit I used the buzz words of harassment and slander to get my point across but it had been two days of an asked and answered conversation and I was done with it.

So, AITA for reporting her over this incident?

P.S.- I am not the only one off. We are a team of five people and two other coworkers are off during the time she wants, but they have children. And the "remarks"? She asked me when she started why I don't want kids and I said I like coming home to clean and quiet house. That's the extent of the "remarks".

EDIT:

I am in the US (Midwest)and my company is huge on work life balance due to burn out in our field. You're eligible to use your PTO after 30 days and it accures fast. After looking, Haley is eligible for 52 hours of PTO to date.

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