By skyforbes I really don’t know if I am a huge asshole or not. This has been a very long year and I will be as clear as possible
My brother passed earlier this year and my parents have not been dealing with it well. His wife ( Hazel) before his death did not get along well with our side of the family especially my mother. I know I am bias but she has been royal bitch to my mom and me .
My brother had a kid prior to being married to hazel ( she was his stepmom and never adopted him) I got custody of him after my brother passed ( bio mom is in jail)
One of the biggest bad point in the relationship was her lying about my mom. She claimed my mom was calling her names and fat. She was not and only came clean after mom was uninvited from their wedding and missed it. She apologized to the family about that ( it wasn’t a good apology because she basically claimed it was a big misunderstanding).
After that she was passive aggressive to me and my mom. She didn’t listen to boundaries ( especially with touching) and snide mean comment the whole time. When it was brought up, they claimed we were being sensitive ( we were not, she literally called me ugly multiple times in “polite ways”) I am very happy they didn’t have kids together.
After my brother died and I filed for custody she did a 180. She was nice and it is weird. I know it’s to try to stay close to my nephew ( he is 6)
My parent can not host Christmas this year so I am hosting. She texted me asking when Christmas dinner would be and any ideas for presents for my nephew. I told her she is not invited. That this is just immediate family event and I need to prioritize those people and she is not that anymore.
In short I was called a petty bitch