By skyforbes Also, I spoke at length with my sister about just me attending and my husband staying back with our kids (all young and one is a baby). She and my BIL were fine with that so that wasn't the issue.
I got three hours of sleep last night between being anxious about the day's events and my baby waking up to eat at 2:30 AM.
I got out of bed at 5:30 AM and left the house an hour later to head to my parents house so we could all drive together.
I had told my husband the night before when I thought I might get home and I guesstimated 2:30 PM.
After the short morning service, we went to a restaurant (I told my husband this days before but reminded him again the night before).
Throughout my time out of the house, I was in regular contact with him, letting him know the service was about to begin, when we were headed to the restaurant, when we got there, when we were leaving the restaurant and returning to my parents, and when I was leaving to come back home.
I also left him a note of things to remember for our kids (our oldest takes prescription medicine 2x/day so I reminded him of the time to administer and the amount), and other considerations regarding formula for baby and nap time for the toddler.
Upon returning, I stayed 30 minutes at my parents house just speaking with my parents and one of my cousins who is staying there overnight. I knew I was going to leave shortly after getting back to my parents (due to horrible traffic building up), but I also didn't have a desire to just up and leave as soon as I got back to their place.
I got a message from my husband at 2 PM asking when I was coming home because he was getting flustered with the kids.
I sent one last text to my husband at 2:15 PM telling him I was leaving to come home.
I ended up pulling into our driveway at 3 PM exactly but hung out in the car until 3:15 PM because he was attempting to put our toddler to nap and I didn't want to come in and derail the effort (kiddo has always been a terrible sleeper so a lot of coaxing is necessary).
My husband was complaining that he was having trouble getting our child to nap and was trying to dance around asking me to step in. For once, I put my foot down and said that I wouldn't be assisting this time because I just wanted to take a shower and get warmed up.
Eventually I came in at 3:15 and went upstairs as quietly as I could and got in. About 15 minutes into my shower, he came in and asked if I was almost done. I said I would be out shortly but then he made a snarky remark saying he needed me to get out to help because he "has to get shit done" and our child was refusing to nap so he just gave up.
He was raising his voice and I said to please lower it because our baby was sleeping not far from the bathroom. He got even more angry when I said this and yelled, "Well you were supposed to be home at 2:30 and I told you I have to do work" – meanwhile he was supposed to be on PTO anyways but my oldest told me he was on calls throughout the day.
I got upset that he yelled at me over this, especially given the circumstances of the day. He never even asked me anything about the service or the dining afterwards. No asking of how people were.. just apparently angry before I even got home.
So instead of hurrying up to finish, I just took my time and continued showering. I got out when I got out.
By that time, he was already elsewhere in the house or outside (I don't even remember) and left my toddler with our oldest. I then proceeded to put our toddler down to nap.
I also found out after my shower that he never put our baby down to nap all day except right before I got home. I asked why because it's not hard to put our baby down for napping. He yelled and cussed at me saying he had "a really fucking busy day" and "I couldn't accommodate that today." Again, I was puzzled because he was supposed to be on PTO.
But anyways, did I overreact by ignoring his ask to quickly get out of the shower?