By skyforbes Cut forward to last December. I was cleaning our apartment and found testosterone. He’s somewhat of a hoarder so I wanted to make sure it wasn’t an old one that had been accidentally moved in. So I hid it in my sock drawer. Within 48 hours he confronted me, angry that I’d took it – clearly he had been taking it. I gave him an ultimatum. Me or testosterone. We were set to get married in the summer. He promised he wouldn’t take it again. He promised my parents too.
So things settled down, we married, and we have been uber keen on having kids asap – him slightly more so than me even. So we have been trying. It’s been a while with no pregnancy so we took some fertility tests.
We just had results today. Mine came back good. His showed up as no sperm whatsoever. The doctor asked him if he takes testosterone and my husband replied 12 months ago. The doctor said he’d expect sperm to recover in 3-4 months which means we need to take a load more tests to figure out why there’s no sperm. My first reaction was to comfort obviously, but when he heard 3-4 months, my husband seemed less deflated than he had been when he first heard the results.
So after we said goodbye to the doctor, I asked my husband ‘was 12 months really the last time you took T?’. After some back and fourth he admittedly he last took it two weeks ago.
I am fuming. He lied to me. He’s been wasting my time. He risked our future child’s health. He risked his own health. He risked our future.
But he’s mad at me for not being supportive and he thinks I’m being completely unreasonable in my reaction. He thinks I should be focussed on resolving the issue rather than the ‘why’. That I married him knowing his history so I should be okay with it. He’s making me doubt myself.
So people of Reddit. AITAH?