By skyforbes Hubby (40) and I (41) have three children 10, 8, and 5. We have a tradition of the kids waking up to find gifts around the tree and spending morning opening them. We sip coffee while we watch the joy and paper fly. Then as I work on tidying the chaos, my husband makes breakfast. After this my parents stop by for an hour and we finish day at relatives. Mother-in-law gets a day with us and husbands siblings that is determined by everyone’s schedules. Usually within a day or two of the actual holiday. We will spend most of the day there visiting and having a meal.
Mother-in-law is not fulfilled by this though. She wants to come spend Christmas morning at our house watching the kids open Santa gifts. She is big on guilt trips and makes comments on how she misses the chaos. She has been posting leading stories, obviously directed at us, about lonely cold left out grandparents on Christmas. She is not alone. For most of our children’s lives she had her husband, and now she has moved on to a boyfriend. Definitely not waking up alone.
We don’t have a close relationship. She is difficult and we are very different personalities. There has been tension the past few years over an incident that has pushed us even further apart. She can go months without calling and asking about the kids.
We just want our Christmas morning to be ours. We have both always pictured it to be this way. She can stop by after if she would like. We would honestly prefer she didn’t beings we will be spending time with her within a day or two and don’t enjoy her company.
So are we A-holes for keeping Christmas morning to ourselves?
Mother-in-law is not fulfilled by this though. She wants to come spend Christmas morning at our house watching the kids open Santa gifts. She is big on guilt trips and makes comments on how she misses the chaos. She has been posting leading stories, obviously directed at us, about lonely cold left out grandparents on Christmas. She is not alone. For most of our children’s lives she had her husband, and now she has moved on to a boyfriend. Definitely not waking up alone.
We don’t have a close relationship. She is difficult and we are very different personalities. There has been tension the past few years over an incident that has pushed us even further apart. She can go months without calling and asking about the kids.
We just want our Christmas morning to be ours. We have both always pictured it to be this way. She can stop by after if she would like. We would honestly prefer she didn’t beings we will be spending time with her within a day or two and don’t enjoy her company.
So are we A-holes for keeping Christmas morning to ourselves?