By skyforbes When he bought the place and asked me to move in, I basically made it clear that I wasn’t really comfortable with how he had his room in the past sharehouse, and that I’d be happy to move in at the end of my lease if during those months he put effort into making a nice home now that he owned his own place. Basic things like buying a new mattress because his current one is so insanely lopsided and uncomfortable that I have a terrible sleep whenever I stay over. I offered to go shopping with him at any time, and even joint buy furniture to put in the apartment in the months before I moved in. He said he’d do it, and guess what? The apartment is still almost exactly as it was when he moved in.
I have BEGGED him to buy some furniture, and he was just content to have his bed, two lamps, and a mismatched table and chairs in the living room. It took him until November to buy a couch just to sit on in the lounge room, and this was after me sending him 20+ options on marketplace (since he complained he couldn’t find one to buy). At first he said he’d furnish the place properly after he’d saved up a bit – which was understandable for the first few months. Now he says he’s waiting for me to move in to buy furniture, even though I made it clear that I wanted him to do this before I moved in. I refuse to move in to an unfinished place and put all the effort into making it nice myself. We are both adults and both work in design. There is literally no reason why he can’t decide on what furniture to buy when it’s literally part of his job. He also earns more than me (we both make over $90k) so there’s nothing financial stopping him actually purchasing things.
Now when I ask him about why he hasn’t bought anything, he acts like I’m being extremely demanding and unrealistic. He also then turns around and complains that I never stay over or am never going to move in, even though I have made it extremely clear what he needs to do for that to happen.
What’s making it worse is my parents are also acting like I’m being very demanding whenever I complain that nothing at the apartment has changed. Guys, am I crazy??? Is this an unrealistic thing to ask for?? I’m honestly at the point where I’m considering breaking up with him because I can’t imagining dealing with this constant fight to be believed or considered for the rest of my life.