The TikTok Algorithm Is Quietly Ruining Relationship

Let me speak from the gut today.

Because I’m angry. Not irrational-angry. Righteous-angry.

I’ve spent the last 6 months researching what social media algorithms — specifically TikTok — are doing to our psychology, our love lives, and our ability to even look each other in the eye without suspicion. And I can’t stay silent anymore.

You want to know why you’re overthinking every little thing he said?

Why you’re replaying that video where some random “alpha male” guru screams that “she belongs to the streets”?

Why your girlfriend suddenly thinks you’re a narcissist just because you forgot to text “goodnight” last Tuesday?

It’s not always your fault.
It’s the algorithm.

Let me break it down — fact by fact, flame by flame.

The Algorithm Is Playing Couples Like Chess Pieces

TikTok is not just “showing you content.”
It’s training you.
It’s shaping what you believe about love, intimacy, trust, and human nature.