By skyforbes He refuses to add me on Instagram.
His excuse?
He says he thinks I’ll “inspect” his followers, likes, and activity, even though I’m genuinely not the type to stalk or police someone’s social media. I don’t care about who he follows, I care about transparency.
But now I feel like he’s hiding something, avoiding accountability, pre-blaming me for being “crazy” when I haven’t done anything, and making a basic ask feel like a crime.
And honestly, I’m tired. I’m 27, I’ve been through enough relationship nonsense to know when something feels off. I’m not here to babysit grown men or “train” someone on how to be a partner.
My intuition isn’t saying “he’s cheating.”
It’s saying “He’s not fully clean either.”
Even my male best friend said a man only does this when there’s something he doesn’t want you to see.
I don’t even feel comfortable explaining this to him because I KNOW he’ll twist it into “See, this is why I didn’t add you.”
I want a man who adds value, who brings calm, clarity, effort, and emotional safety.
Right now, I feel confused, uneasy, and low-effort energy from him.
Is this a valid reason to end things, or am I reading too much into it?