You Turn to ChatGPT Because You Lack Healthy Self-Love

AI therapy is a symptom of something worse

Narcissus by François Lemoyne, 1728

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I used to love myself very little. Then I went to therapy. If I had to summarize in one sentence what I learned, I’d put it like this: you are the center of your world and as such, you should take care of yourself, but if you forget to take care of the rest, eventually you’ll find yourself alone in this world of yours.

I believe my therapist, whom I appreciate despite not having set foot in her practice room for years, was not a chronically online person, and I retrospectively thank her for that, because what I see in therapy culture nowadays is rather distinct from what I learned: you are the center of the world and must ensure everyone else respects your boundaries and the unassailable fact that you are faithful to your essence, i.e., what you truly want from life. If they don’t, you cut ties.

Said like that, doesn’t sound that bad — unconditional self-love is good! — but when you put it into practice, you’ll soon realize that it forces you to choose between a heightened comfort and living among other people. You can’t always have both, and, in the event of conflict, the response is rarely a trade-off or a compromise solution, but shutting off the world self-righteously: if you don’t respect my…

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